Too much energy

topic posted Wed, July 15, 2009 - 6:26 PM by  AnahataDas
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My girlfriend has Alot of energy. she is 23. the men in her life( including me in the past) have never
> been so great to her. never helping her feel so secure, taken care of with
> Compassion. sometimes she says she has too much energy. she is from the
> 15,000ft moutains. She is very social and gets alot of energy from friends/
> guys. So she can be very active, wants action, SEEKING excitement. she isnt
> always content with me which i understand. I know i am very dispassionate
> after becoming a Yogi. i know in KY though they say to have some passion.
> the last year she has been "doing whatever she feels"not had so many limits
> and kind of expanding very quickly Not taking care of her arua, having sex
> with other people than me, partying so much.. It seems like she is going through a venus period. now i have come back into
> contact with her she is slowing down a little. Its so nice to be there
> energetically for eachother, to balance the male and female energies. just
> being there. it is vunerable and you get deeper to the root so more things
> come up than just riding on the attractive energies, but i really feel so
> much better about it. i am glad for the teachings of all the yogis and the
> Humanology of Yogi Bhajan that has helped me to understand women (a little)
> more and relationships and the basic roles better.
> i think she just wants to do something with her energy.. from my own
> experience and from observing other yogis we feel very calm, content,
> balanced, sometimes even passive. I am so grateful.i notice she doesnt feel
> this way untill she has stayed up all night almost, dancing or talking,
> drinking etc... its really nice to be there with her when she has had some
> drinks and she is really peaceful and calm- but she has some impurity
> usually then.. its not all Her energy. she doesnt wake up early and do
> sadhana, usually she is up at 8-11am.. i love being around her. its very
> nice she is such a beautiful person. Its nice too when she is more chilled
> out, more content in just Being.
> She can do sooooo much for the world, kids, poor people, young people. In
> service of our Love and the Consciousness i hope there is someway that she
> can get more into channeling her energy not just higher, but balancing all
> aspects. shes amazing, i hope reading this you might get a suggestion from
> your own experience of being a 23 year old woman with alot of energy and not
> so much guidance.
> Thank You for any insight You may have. I am really glad to see the many
> persepectives. May the Guru Bless You. Your wisdom and kindness is the
> Greatest gift.
> In Peace
posted by:
AnahataDas
Washington, D.C.
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  • Re: Too much energy

    Sun, July 19, 2009 - 1:31 AM
    Rajas leading to Tamas, is the problem of life, its not just your girlfriend, but most people of the world . including you and me. Well sir, if you are worried about your girlfriend's behaviour, dispassion doesnt seem to be working. concentrate on Your feelings and meditate on the Mahat principle it will help you discipline your thinking better.
    • Re: Too much energy

      Sun, July 19, 2009 - 11:50 AM
      Not to go off on too much of a tangent, but it's interesting you put it that way Sachin: "Rajas (passion) leading to Tamas (darkness)". As I ate cherry ice cream this morning for breakfast (I added some additional fresh cherries to it last night to make it bit better), I wondered when passion leads only to darkness and when passion might lead to light. Obviously if I have a passion for God, Brahman, etc. that is a passion that could lead to light if I can grow some greater sense of what that light is (or is not) within me. But how about cherry ice cream, or sex, or self-flattering behaviors...? When is there a god-connection (a god-sense) in that and when is there not. It's too easy to be an absolutist about such things when one is practiced in the ways of the Self, and schooled in the knowledge of that which might point toward or away from that, but what of this young woman? Teaching her in the same information might not do anything for her as she may not have the awareness necessary to see the meaning of that in her experiences and behaviors. I go through this now and then. I meet someone who is searching, not for God in name but for God in their experiences, but experiences (driven by great desires or desparate needs) that point them away from god not toward it. In compassion, I can share myself with them as best I am able, but I never know whether or not I have made (or can truly make) a difference in will move them to some greater awareness of that which they are not knowingly seeking.
      • Re: Too much energy

        Tue, July 21, 2009 - 12:08 PM
        Namaste Soul
        I feel
        Passion for God
        ==============
        Passion for God may lead to ego for God ( your religion, your god, your way, My religion My god My way), then comes attachment which is associated with sentiments. With sentiments , comes hurt , and then only passion remains ....and God is forgotten :D. but Love for God , slowly fills your mind, pushing out everything else out of the way. Day and night , the image, thoughts and words of God in the heart . When this happens, slowly , you develop dispassion for the world , the mind turns towards the heart which is filled with God. This nectar of universal bliss is much much sweeter then the cherries and wholesome than the milk in the ice cream.

        The path to light
        =================
        God , guides us through bliss reward. He gave us sexual pleasure as an incentive to reproduce so life thrives in the universe. He gave us pleasure of taste to help us enjoy food and nutrition. He gave us bliss of smell to help us find the right environment. But we wanted the rewards more and more. we eat more to prolong the taste and hence the bliss associate , and in return get health problems. We have sex just for pleasure and we want it everyday to prolong the pleasure. There is nothing wrong in this, if man/woman is satisfied with the senses, there is really no need for God, for God itself has given us all this to be satisfied. but the reality is , these pleasures are short lived and as we proceed with age, we live in denial and everyday fall into the same loop for seeking pleasure and prolonging the rewards given by the senses. However, God saved the biggest reward for the only thing in life that would give us permanent pleasure. That thing is the knowledge of Self. The knowledge of the existence of pure conciousness (the Mahat principle), this is what we were before being born, while we are living and after our bodily death.
        The bliss associated with this knowledge is biological in nature initially, since God guides through bodily bliss.
        There are receptors in the body which react to chemicals in the body. Hence you love the cherries for the sugar. But all this is true till our Prana is within our body. When it moves to upper conciousness levels, the bliss which starts off as a reward to the senses ( through which God guides us), slowly becomes dissolved into the soul. If we get imprisoned in the pleasure, here too, we would only be meditating for the pleasure associated with it or for the Siddhis given by it.

        Its only when you ask the question "Who am I?" and dont stop till you get the answer from God within , you get the premanent reward. The knowledge of self, which in itself is the reward and knowledge.Hence its known as the absolute truth by most saints.

        To put it differently we live the life of the baloon filled with sea water and thrown into the sea.
        The baloon gets thrown in all directions, it feels hassled by the sea, it says "Why Me" , it feels all alone, it searches for other baloons in the sea, ...but only when it looks within, it finds the element of the sea inside and it then opens its knot and becomes the sea.

        For the young Girl
        ===========================
        Like most young people born and bred in this world, she is full of Rajas and everyday hunts for the reward of
        bliss provided by her senses. If she feels happy with this, there is absolutely no need for anybody to give her any advice , she is enjoying her life, let her enjoy. However if you need to help her out, the easiest way is to show her the bliss of spirituality. Wearing a 11-mukhi rudraksha on the forehead often helps women get instant pleasure because of the realease of anandamide. It tends to make them drowsy too and so many people dont like to wear it when they are at the peak of their Rajasic life.
        But again this depends on her Pranic configuration. If she feels the pleasure, she will follow it and then the universe will guide her to the light. Once this happens, life will never be the same for her..the baloon will start looking within...

        Om




  • Re: Too much energy

    Sun, September 13, 2009 - 8:02 AM
    Unfortunately, people like this have to *want* to change, it not enough for you to want her to change...yet. I went through a similar phase in my life a few years ago, then had a very bad experience when I was taken advantage of by someone I thought was a friend. I realized that I had put myself in that situation by not having respect for myself, once I had that realization I realized I needed to focus on myself and improving myself.

    I was very fortunate to find Buddhism and yoga at that point in my life, I really think that it saved me from continuing to make the mistakes that she is right now. The best advice I can give to you/her is to realize that this behavior comes from a lack of respect for yourself. I hope that she doesn't have to have such a bad experience to realize this, but maybe she is suffering from a low self image. Do things with her that are positive and create good karma, maybe make a date each week to do yoga/meditation together and a date to volunteer somewhere. Hopefully she will realize how good this makes her feel and will want to continue doing things that help her and help others.

    She could have too much energy and subconciously be afraid of it, so she tries to dull it with drink and partying. Help her realize that this energy is a gift and that she will have a much more fulfilling life if she takes full advantage of this gift.

    Hope this advice helps, best wishes.

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